“The way we dress impacts those around us, especially guys. I don’t really want a guy to look at me and notice me for my butt, upper thighs, or chest. I’d rather him notice my smile or God-loving personality. “Well, sure,” you say, “that’s all fine and good, but guys should be able to control their imagination and look beyond or bodies.” That’s true, they should control it. But it’s important for girls to help them as they try to do so.” -Rachael Clark
I don’t think that when women (well, most women) chose to reveal parts of their body that it’s intended to attract others sexually. Women should never be ashamed of their bodies or feel lesser than men. True modesty isn’t about hiding or being ashamed of our bodies, but it’s a way of revealing our dignity. Women are the epitome of creation. I’ve always loved Adam’s reaction when he first saw Eve, “Bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh!” he was in so much awe of her and Eve is just like, “You’re alright, I guess.” Lol!
Personally, I struggle with modesty because I feel as if it doesn’t have a clear definition. The idea of what is or isn’t modest changes drastically over time- if a woman were caught wearing a bikini in the 1940’s it would have been super scandalous, but now it’s whatever. Generally, my beliefs fall in line with Church teaching on this particular subject, but at times I feel as if it gives a heavier burden for women to bear, but again men have their burdens too. Our light should shine beyond our dress.